- me in my head: i'm going to get my life together and read classic novels and drink green tea and eat really healthy and wear cute outfits and make interesting artwork and spend lots of time outside. i'm going to start biking everywhere and walking and listening to lots of new indie bands that i've always wanted to listen to and take bubble baths and my life is just going to be amazing.
- me in reality: well. today i think i'm going to watch netflix in my pjs and eat ice cream. and if i'm feeling really productive i might shower.
White women and black men have it both ways. They can act as oppressor or be oppressed. Black men may be victimized by racism, but sexism allows them to act as exploiters and oppressors of women. White women may be victimized by sexism, but racism enabled them to act as exploiters and oppressors of black people. Both groups have led liberation movements that favor their interests and support the continued oppression of other groups. Black male sexism has undermined struggles to eradicate racism just as white female racism undermines feminist struggle. As long as these two groups or any group defines liberation as gaining social equality with ruling class white men, they have a vested interest in the continued exploitation and oppression of others.
Subordination affects the imagination to the point where, in a dynamic similar to that suffered by other colonialized groups, women internalize the images and notions declared about them by a ruling group and come to believe it of themselves. Being inculturated in a thousand subtle ways through familial socialization, education, the media, and religious practice to the idea that women are not as capable as men, nor are they expected to be, leads to an internalized sense of powerlessness. The internalization of secondary status then functions like a self-fulfilling prophecy, inculcating low self-esteem, passivity, and an assessment of oneself as inadequate even where that is patently untrue.
When I was a student at Cambridge I remember an anthropology professor holding up a picture of a bone with 28 incisions carved in it. “This is often considered to be man’s first attempt at a calendar” she explained. She paused as we dutifully wrote this down. ‘My question to you is this – what man needs to mark 28 days? I would suggest to you that this is woman’s first attempt at a calendar.’ It was a moment that changed my life. In that second I stopped to question almost everything I had been taught about the past. How often had I overlooked women’s contributions?
68 year old gardener Peter Glazebrook produces onion weighing 18lb and smashes the world record previously set by himself.
i am so happy 4 him look how happy he looks
a man and his onion
he’s gazing at it so tenderly
he loves it it is going to bring him to tears loooool get it
In our culture, penetrative sex is so often portrayed as the finishing line of all sexual experience that whenever we talk about getting it on, we assume that means someone got a Tab A up their Slot B. But “sex” can refer to an enormously wide range of activities, and by extension, so can “losing your virginity.” For instance, there are some gay men who are wholly uninterested in anal sex and have never had it — would you really describe all those dudes as virgins? Even if they blew their entire fraternity house? What about Christian teenagers having anal sex, believing that counts as “saving themselves for marriage” because their hymens still have that new-car smell? It’s insane that our culture assigns so much value to one particular sexual act to the extent that if you’ve done it, that one specific thing, you are a whole different kind of person than you were before. We have a whole separate noun to denote never having had penetrative sex — can you think of any equivalent to that in the English language? There’s no word that means “person who has never eaten sushi” or “person who has never played racquetball.” - Queer Credentials, Reverse Crushes, and a Handy How-To : The Hairpin
Fashion is one of the very few forms of expression in which women have more freedom than men. And I don’t think it’s an accident that it’s typically seen as shallow, trivial, and vain. It is the height of irony that women are valued for our looks, encouraged to make ourselves beautiful and ornamental… and are then derided as shallow and vain for doing so. And it’s a subtle but definite form of sexism to take one of the few forms of expression where women have more freedom, and treat it as a form of expression that’s inherently superficial and trivial. Like it or not, fashion and style are primarily a women’s art form. And I think it gets treated as trivial because women get treated as trivial.
I receive much criticism of my work; mostly it focuses on the exploitation angle. I am a banker taking pictures of addicts. I get it. There is another theme that runs through the comments. Here is an example from the New York Times story on me:
“I must say that some of the…
this photography series is amazing and this writing is amazing and my life does not suck